One small practice at a time, for people in their first years of recovery — from alcohol, from drugs, and from the quieter attachments: people-pleasing, codependency, and the voice that says you're not enough.
No pressure, no pitch · Works alongside any program
Most of us can recite what would help. Gratitude. Calling someone. Getting to bed on time. We understand it. We could teach it. And still we don't do it — so we never become it.
learning understanding knowing doing
The top bar is an illustration of the usual habit, not a measurement. The bottom bar is how we spend our time together: a little learning, and then doing. Being is not a line item. It's what the doing earns.
A callus isn't something you're given. It's proof of what you repeated until it became part of you.
That's why I call the method The Callus — earned, not explained. One small practice, repeated until the new way becomes the natural way. If a practice isn't happening, we make it smaller. If it isn't improving your life, we change it — not you.
We pick one small thing to do this week. Never a reading assignment. Something you can do in five minutes.
In your real life — with the resistance, the attempt, the win, and the slip.
A two-minute check-in right after: what happened, what came up inside, and where the gap showed.
I read every register. I'll name your strength, name the gap in one sentence, and we choose the next practice.
Individual work, shaped to where you actually are. Faith-integrated and strengths-based: we start with what's already strong in you and build the practices that move the needle.
or two payments of $360 · about $90 a session
Want to keep going? After eight weeks, continue at $300 a month for four sessions.
Start with a free callAlready decided? Pay $720 or two payments of $360
"The work" means your register after each of the eight sessions: what you practiced, and for how long. Complete all eight, and if nothing has changed, I'll refund you in full. Applies to one-on-one coaching.
“Have you ever been cared for — not looked at, not managed, not tolerated — cared for?”
A few minutes from a talk on trust: three hands — the surgeon, the anesthesiologist, the nurse — and three separate surrenders. Put on headphones and give it two minutes.
Live on Zoom in a small group · $297 for six weeks, $397 for the eight-week Mindfulness course. Mindfulness opens first, in January.
See all seven courses →The four things the book names, the twelve questions, and the dial that turns awareness into action. Five minutes, then close the day. Free, always.
I've walked alongside people recovering from alcohol, cocaine and sex addiction — and from the quieter attachments too: people-pleasing, codependency, and the voice that says you're not good enough.
For me, recovery and positive psychology are the same work. Both ask you to close the gap between knowing and doing. You can understand the Twelve Steps and still not take them. You can know gratitude works and still not practice it. The gap is where we live, and it's where the change actually happens.
I don't teach people to understand more. I help them do more.
A word of clarity: I'm not a 12-step counselor, and this is not 12-step coaching. The Steps are one road I've walked for fifty-three years, and this work sits comfortably alongside them. The coaching itself is mental-health coaching and positive psychology. No program membership required.
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No. It's mental-health coaching and positive psychology. It works alongside the Steps, or any other program, or no program at all. It doesn't replace your fellowship, your sponsor, or your therapist.
Very possibly. Recovery is about attachments, and some of the strongest are to people, approval, and old stories about ourselves. If people-pleasing, codependency, or "I'm not good enough" runs your days, this work is for you.
By video call, wherever you are in the world. We find a weekly time that works across time zones.
The eight-week one-on-one program. Complete your register after each of the eight sessions — what you practiced, and for how long. If nothing has changed for you, I'll refund you in full.
About thirty minutes. We talk about where you are and what you want to change. By the end you'll know whether this is a fit, and I'll tell you straight whether I can help. If I can't, I'll point you to someone who can.
Thirty minutes, free, no pitch. You'll leave with one small thing to try, whether we work together or not.
Book a free 30-minute callPrefer email? john@practiceflourishing.com
— John